Allen Kendall

I’m aware that it isn’t socially acceptable to acknowledge the differences between men and women. Simply stating this, a man might be seen to suggest inequality and might be suspected of insinuating that men are superior. But that’s not the case. The reality is that we are just fundamentally different.
I’m not sure who first said it, but I’ve always found some truth in the saying, “When women are depressed, they either eat or go shopping. Men invade another country.”
I often use hyperbole to demonstrate what are otherwise rather obvious points. As much as this is at least hyperbole or, maybe better said, a massive generalization, it is nonetheless very poignant and to the point of our differences.
It’s important to remember that, as men, we often react to situations in different ways than our wives might. When facing challenges in our personal lives, we may respond with a more offensive or aggressive approach. Similarly, if work becomes challenging, we may unintentionally bring that stress home and take it out on our loved ones through anger or emotional distance.
These moments allow us an opportunity to be proactive in our efforts to improve our marriage and demonstrate the value we put on our relationship. We can handle the disagreements all couples experience by being more thoughtful, understanding, and kind while focusing on the instigating issue without letting our instincts control us or allowing outside influences to add unrelated complications. This focused approach will help minimize escalating adverse outcomes from these situations and prevent them from turning into multiple conflicts that must be resolved.
When you face an argument or a disagreement with your wife, deal only with the issue before you. Deal with it calmly, kindly, and respectfully. Don’t bring up past issues. Don’t invade another country, as it were, for the sake of issue dodging or defensiveness. By being a better man, one who is a safe and stable man, you will give your wife a new sense of security. You will allow her to be her best as well. You will both be at your best. You’ll still be different and still your best.